Child, Teen & Family Therapy


 

GABE GOMEZ

 

I help familes with:

•  Anxiety & Depression

•  Parenting

•  Trauma, Grief and Loss

•  The Collaborative Problem-Solving Approach

•  Interpersonal neurobiology: Our Brains in Relationship

•  Behavior management with heart: Balancing Nurture and Structure

•  Helping children with cognitive, emotional, or behavioral challenges

•  Strength-based, needs-driven support for families dealing with autism, ADHD, learning disabilities

 

COMPASSION for CHILDREN and PARENTS

In my work with children and their biological, foster, and adoptive families, relationship is central.

We are biologically disposed to connect with one another, but children’s behavior can be confusing, annoying, and frustrating, obscuring that crucial fact. I have come to believe that children, however distressed and distressing they are, are doing the best they can with the tools they’ve got at the moment. It’s our job as parents, caregivers and teachers to figure out what other tools are needed, and provide them. Fortunately, I also believe that parents are doing the best they can with the tools they've got at the moment- there is hope, and help! 

 

UNDERSTANDING

I help families to better understand the needs of their children, respecting the unique character of each family member and the circumstances within which problems arise. I can help parents provide the critical balance of nurture and structure to raise successful, confident, caring children, whether the challenges include attachment, anxiety, developmental disorders, or behavioral issues.  If you are facing confusion about how to help your children and deepen your relationships at the same time, I can help.

 


 

ELI HASTINGS

 I support teens and young adults experiencing:

•  Anxiety & depression 

•  T/trauma (past or recent)

•  Grief and loss (including around relationships ending)

•  Identity disturbance/crisis

•  Anger/rage and risky or dangerous behavior

 

FOR TEENS - FINDING YOUR VOICE

My background is in family therapy, primarily working with teenagers to help them find their voice in their family and, often, helping families see that the teen's behavior/problems are actually symptoms of something that needs to be addressed as a family.  Many times, teens have suffered traumas they don't disclose to parents, as well.  I have extensive experience with trauma.  I believe that a majority of what we call "mental health issues" stem from traumas--so by going there, one can go to the root, rather than bandaging the wound.  Teenage years by my estimation are rich and also the most painful years of life.

 

SUPPORTING PARENTS and FAMILIES

My experience in working with parents is that it’s a difficult, exciting and often scary developmental stage–for both teens and parents.  As teens prepare to launch from childhood to adulthood, they hunger for experiences of mastery to assure them they’ll be ok–or, on the other hand, may subconsciously make choices that keep them rooted in the nest.   Parents may therefore also behave in ways that seek to keep the family tethered without knowing it.

Because of the complexity, there is tremendous potential for confusion, miscommunication, hurt feelings, and real conflict in families with teenagers.  I truly enjoy helping young people find voices that their parents can understand, to ask for assurance and yet for closure.  I especially experiencing meaning in helping families address acute crises.